Are we really considering the cost?

Last night an older gentlemen at church cornered me and asked, “How much does it cost to adopt from Ethiopia?”  When I answered the question, the man looked as if he would literally pass out.  He then acted amazed that anyone could actually do it.

I began thinking about the reality that no one acts so shocked when they find out how much we pay for our cars and houses. And yet, the cost of an adoption is a cost for which we have no context to consider.

It’s true that one of the very first questions folks have to ask when considering adoption is, “How much does it cost?”  The issue of finances is probably the biggest obstacle families face when adopting. Most families will spend the majority of the process raising funds, while trying to figure out how to pay pressing fees.  Obviously, families who want to adopt will have to consider the financial cost.  But, is there a far greater cost we are all failing to consider?

The sad reality is that there are many couples choosing not to adopt because they feel the money just isn’t available.  There are others who are refusing to help support them because it feels irrelevant, even when it comes to the enterprise of kingdom investments.  Meanwhile, we all seem to be thinking hard about how to squeeze enough money out of our monthly budgets for fast food and new cell phone apps.

When it comes to caring for orphaned children around the world, the cost is far greater than anything we could ever imagine.  Whether you are the face of love for a child without a family or you help give so some else can be, the issue is not the money.  The issue is obeying Jesus. The cost is one of ignoring Him and His brothers and sisters who presently languish in abandonment.

Jesus gives us a breakdown of the price paid for this in Matthew 25:41-46

Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me no drink, I was a stranger and you did not welcome me, naked and you did not clothe me, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’ Then they also will answer, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to you?’ Then he will answer them, saying, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.’ And these will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.

May we be more shocked by what it will cost us to ignore Jesus than what it cost to adopt one of the least of these!



  1. good post Jeremy

  2. joyce · · Reply

    Thanks for this post, Im a single mum to my adopted son and would love to adopt again. But the cost factor really puts me off, plus I adopted domestically last time and then left country where it would have been possible to adopt via the same route again. It appears that international adoptions would be the only option and then the cost factors sky rockets.
    Thanks for the perspective.

  3. Yes. The issue is obeying Jesus. Thanks for helping keep it simple….and the gentle reminder that we spend a lot on “other things” that are far less important than this investment in eternity!

  4. Thank you for your post, I have used several of your comments to people who ask us about the cost. Also the reason for my comment is to see if you have any other suggestions for funding or financial resources. My husband and I have exaulted all of our funds at this point. We have applied for ABBA and was denied, did receive some funds from CARI and are waiting to hear from ShoHope and are turning in our LifeSong app next week. Unfortunately our church is not very engaged at this point. This has been a major leap of faith for us financialy since we have a special needs child that requires special attention and private tutoring acedimcally. Please advise. We have already accepted a referral for a little boy the age of 3 from Ethiopia, please also pray for him as well. Our case has been submitted just waiting for our court date. My husband and I love reading your blog, you are such an inspiration, you say the most simple things about what God commands of us, expects from us but yet so profound. May God continue to bless you and your family!!!!

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